Compliment or Insult?

There have been more then a few men over the years, who have told me to "take it as a compliment" after the fact they came too fast when we had sex. I also heard this from male friends (only the straight ones) during question and answer periods on the topic.

Most women find it a bit of an insult when they are with men who are premature. Specially when it seems to happen with more then one sexual partner more then once.

We're left trying to figure out what we're doing wrong.  (okay guys, seriously what am I doing wrong here?)  And no matter how many times you tell us that you found us so f*cking hot in the heat of the moment, it still leaves some dents in our self esteem armor.  {specially when you add it to the numbers of men faking it}