We've all heard the terms "like attracts like" and "opposites attract". The entire romantic comedy genre is based on the idea that opposites attract, and we've all learned that when you're positive good things come into your life, and when you're negative, bad stuff appears.
So if both view points are true, then what should we be looking out for when it comes to relationships?
The two big loves in my life, both ended up leaving me for women in the same business as them. Ironically, both times they happened to be actors.
On Sex and the City, for the fifth season and part of the sixth, Carrie dates fellow writer Berger. On the surface, it seemed like the greatest match for her, but quickly the cracks became obvious. The relationship falls apart, and Carrie meets Petrovsky, whom she moves away with. Her relationship with him is too much of an opposite and it doesn't just develop cracks, it explodes. This is one instance when art really does imitate life, or life imitating art, depending on how you look at it.
On the show, Carrie experiences both versions of the "attracting rules" and neither works for her. Too many of us end up in similar situations in real life. Either we have too much in common and it causes jealously and stress, or else we have nothing in common and it causes co-dependance and insecurity.
On a night like this, I just can't help but wonder, do we like our opposite or do we oppose what we like?
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